Unconditional Love is a Great Gift for your Spouse

We all understand love in so many different ways usually based on our previous experiences.  Most often we give love measured out in reaction to what we get out of the relationship.  Check out these three important concepts of love that will have you loving your spouse in a new way. 

Realize that love is a choice. Many follow their feelings and love one person after another in a long and unsuccessful succession.  Is that love?  True love chooses to love as the feelings go up and down.  There is security to a committed love like that.  Wedding vows used to read, “till death do us part,” or “as long as you both shall live.”  Many still use the same vows but apparently they forget in the hard times and give up on their spouse.  The choice is to love and do it to your best even when it hurts.

Hold nothing back. Love your spouse with everything that you are and have.  If you hold back in any area, you are not only shortchanging your spouse, but yourself as well.   Does anyone but God deserve everything that you have?  No, no one deserves it, but we give it freely and liberally.  God prescribes that we love each other as married people with everything that we have, so that’s what we must do.  It can be scary to give all of ourselves.  What if our spouse does not return the love or treats us disrespectfully?   If your relationship is difficult at the moment, then working to build trust is important.  Part of the marriage development equation will require giving all of ourselves.

Put action to your love. Love is not mere sentiment.  Action is the proof of love.  Because you love your spouse, you go out of your way to bless them.  It might be to meet their needs.  It might be just because you want to show you love them.  Even when there is some disagreement between you and your spouse you can do things that show you love them.  In this circumstance it really becomes a display of unconditional love.  In the hard times and the good, show your love to your spouse in ways that they can easily see your heart.  It will keep your relationship steady.

Love comes from inside us.  It is the gift that we give particularly to our spouse.  It allows them to be free to be who they are without the risk of being unloved by us.  Give your all- no strings attached.