The Four Essentials of Relationship- Mental part 1

I have heard many people use the phrase, "God gave us gray matter for a reason." The point is that God did make us with a brain to use for solving problems, discerning situations, and even to build on new ideas. How does this work in relationships?

We need to be constantly searching out truth. There are so many things that are important to know. Many truths are necessary to know. We could needlessly be suffering through any number of difficulties because we just don't know what to do about it. Because we do not know everything about those who come close to us, it is easy to make judgements based only on the small amount of information that we do know.

We have acquaintances that we are friendly to, but stay only at the friendly level. They are not like those who get really close to us, who we begin to trust on a deeper level. Closest of all are those, like our spouses, that we strive not only to be completely transparent, but to really know them as well. On any of these levels, we can apply this mental or intellectual part of relating to others.

BECOME A STUDENT OF YOUR FAMILY

Think of the most important relationships that you have, and begin to study them. What do they like to do? What do they never want to do? What would they most likely pick to eat if they had a choice? When will they just jump in to a conversation, and when will they walk away? How do they react to arguments? All of this and more gives us great insight to people. You can probably answer these questions easily. The question is are you applying what you know.

The Focused Family, remember, is made up of people who are intentional about their relationships. Then my question to you is what are you doing with the information that you have to enhance your relationships?

Next time we will look at relating mentally and ways to exercise intellectually with others.

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