It is amazing how two people so closely linked, even in marriage, can think totally different. One may like sports, the other opera. One may like pizza, the other likes salad. You get the idea. You are probably listing the differences between you and your spouse your mind right now.
Even in our relationship, one spouse sees their marriage falling apart while the other relaxes in the idea that all is right in their marriage. Perspective is what makes us different.
Your perspective exposes your expectations. How you feel in your marriage leads you to whether your expectations are being met. We have different perspectives because we have different expectations and needs.
If you are frustrated in your marriage right now, list the reasons for your frustrations. You will probably list ways that your spouse is letting you down. Maybe they do not even know what needs you have. Maybe your expectations have not been verbalized.
It's time for some heart to heart communication. Talk with your spouse. Gently communicate your needs (no nagging or complaining). Let them respond. Ask what needs they have that you may not be aware of. Then each of you can work towards meeting each other's needs which affects how you feel, which affects your perspective.
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