Is your family doomed?

There are cases in the news everyday about divorce and abuse and relationships that seem to just snap. Spouses, that must be out of their minds, in a moment even take the life of their marriage partner. Is that all there is in this existence, or can we expect better?

There must be more

If I read the statistics right more than 50% of marriages will end in divorce. So we hear of the failures. Is there recovery from these relational traumas? Is there any hope? Of course there is we see many find a new spouse, and others find a new path as a couple. Healing can take place. Hope lives! It does not come automatically however.

New direction takes establishing a solid plan to overcome the difficulties. I would say that in order to make it to the deepest levels of relationship with our spouse or children or any other takes a plan as well. Do you ever find that if you are just existing that life will begin to push you in a direction like it or not? I can want this or that until time is no more, but to get at the goal I have to make a plan and then work the plan.

The Intentional Way

Being a "focused family" is about setting the goals and working to get there. I am not talking about the American dream goals of owning my own house, having 2.3 kids, a car for each of us, and a cabin by the lake. I am speaking of articulating what my relationships should look like and what values do I want to pass on to my children.

There are some great resources to help us with this. I would like to introduce you to Above Rubies. There are many items to help us in becoming a Focused Family. Much of their resources speak to women's issues, but there is lots for men as well. In speaking of a family turning around and become a Focused Family, be sure to read Still Married on their site.

The best relationships in life are worth the work!

Bryan